Commenting on something ridiculous is not ridiculous.
But when someone is wrapped up in a behavior or thought that is ridiculous – just what they have become to know as normal – you can get a lot of pushback if you bring it up.
You can get another ridiculous reaction.
Not bringing to light something that is ridiculous is, therefore, tempting.
There is less friction.
However, any conversation where there is not even a little friction is not worth having.
More than likely one or both parties are not expressing a dominant thought in their mind.
I’m not advocating radical honesty where you just blurt out exactly what you are thinking and/or believing every second of the day.
But for relationships you care about – personal, professional, whatever – the thing you don’t want to bring up because of the consequences is exactly what you need to express.
To not do so is ridiculous.
Forbearance and timing is required to clearly express your perspective – or to take action – with a free spirit.