Many people wonder how to get what you want.
But they end up focusing on what they don’t want.
This is the crux of Lesson #2 of the Life Principles Integration Process (LPIP).
Our unconscious minds cannot distinguish the difference between a positive or negative directive.
For example, if a Nascar driver focuses on the side wall while going around the corner, he might be thinking, “Don’t hit the wall, don’t hit the wall.”
His unconscious mind would not register the word Don’t.
It would more than likely follow the instruction
…hit the wall, hit the wall.
And the car would get drawn to smashing into the wall.
This is what most of us are doing throughout our day:
Metaphorically hitting the wall of our beliefs.
The measure to understand if you are focusing on what you don’t want is you feel bad.
Depressed, anxious, angry, bored, frustrated, sad, whatever.
The negative emotion is just a reflection of focusing on what you do not want.
Most would brush this idea off as too simplistic.
Or they might intellectually agree with the assertion but then go about their day in the exact same way.
Here is something practical you can do to let your unconscious mind figure out how to get what you want.
For 2 weeks, take a 3×5 card or small notepad around with you everywhere you go.
Each time you are feeling negative you will do 2 things:
- Make a mark on the paper; and
- Write down what you were focusing on.
It’s quite confronting to see so many marks on the paper.
And it becomes quite clear what feeling bad corresponds to in terms of what we are focusing on.
Each time it happens you have 2 choices:
- To keep focusing on what you don’t want and continue feeling shit; or
- Ask yourself, “How could I change what I’m thinking to focus on what I do want?”
I have to admit: In the past 2 weeks there were times where I was stuck on something I didn’t want.
A couple of times I was frustrated. Overwhelmed. Slightly irritated.
However, I was surprised I could just do the opposite.
It didn’t mean I suddenly started prancing around singing with the birds & the bees.
But the weight of the negative feeling would lose its… oomph.
I wasn’t trying too hard to ‘turn it around’. I was just watching as curiously as I could. With this approach there was a sense of detachment.
Coupled with my consistent use of Holosync, in very small ways/wins, I began to understand how to get what you want.